“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are” -John Wooden
Who am I to write anything on this topic as I’ve had plenty of screw-ups in my own life, but let’s give it a try anyway…the only way to get better…
As we have seen time and time again, someone we have come to admire and adore over time has been found to be not what we thought maybe only by one act of poor judgment. The challenge is that many of us try to project to others that which we think they will look favorably on us for and try to hide our warts. Somehow those warts can dwarf your good deeds, especially if you have lived your life “too perfect” as there is always someone that has been just waiting to tear you down.
Maybe it is better to show your warts from the beginning, like Eminem at the end of 8 Mile… tell everybody your ugly stuff and no one can tear you down if you have already put it out there. Here are a few other things that go a long way:
- Do that which you say you are going to do
- Never make a promise you can’t keep
- Be loyal to those not present… this builds trust with those that are
- If you want to be trusted, be trustworthy
ponder on this: if you make mistakes early in life, but own up to them, you have a chance to recover. However if you spend your life covering up your lies, deceits, etc. and are found out, you may have no chance (or time) to recover…look at Bill Cosby, Joe Paterno, Bernie Madoff, etc.
If the whole world (Your Mom, your Dad, wife, kids) could see every move you make, every thought you think, would you behave the same?
Warren Buffett, “It takes 20 years to build a reputation and 5 minutes to ruin it”
“Honesty compounds exponentially, not over days or weeks, but decades. Be dishonest once and all of those seeds will be washed away” -James Altucher